The concept of marriage is largely dead in my generation through what appears to be a mixture of heightened self-empowerment/reliance and an unwillingness to believe that any partner chosen will be as good as potential future options. My experience of marriage, however, has helped me develop more as a person than I ever could on my own and has taught me that comparison only leads to hurt, mistrust, and relentless self doubt.
So why the stark contrast? Perhaps it’s because the modern understanding of love is heartbreakingly deficient (no pun intended) and, as a result, its value misjudged.
All things considered, love remains.
It remains long after the momentary feelings, good or bad, and it remains even when it’s thought to be lost.
To me, love is like a vein of precious metal. We celebrate when it is found easily near the surface but often it’s hidden deep and only the committed will track it for any length of time.
My faith has grown my capacity for love. I have reached the end of myself more times than I can count, but every time I have found a reservoir of courage, strength, compassion, and love not of myself ready for me to draw on.
I’m not sure love can ever be lost, only forgotten.
1 Corinthian 13 (TPT)
4 Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. 5 Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. 6 Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. 7 Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up.
8 Love never stops loving. It extends beyond the gift of prophecy, which eventually fades away. It is more enduring than tongues, which will one day fall silent. Love remains long after words of knowledge are forgotten.
13Until then, there are three things that remain: faith, hope, and love—yet love surpasses them all. So above all else, let love be the beautiful prize for which you run.